I wish I could tell you otherwise, but I think you already know this. You feel this man could be the love of your life, and you’ve chosen to begin a relationship with him.
I think what you are looking for is a way to share this with your friend without losing her friendship. I think you are also hoping to alleviate some guilt you may be feeling about hurting someone you care deeply about.
Age does not matter so you could be 13 or 30 and all of these rules will apply!
My best friend just started dating a wonderful guy.
It starts when, out of the goodness of my heart, I introduce two of my friends to each other.
Then, they magically click, get super close and become best friends — leaving me to trail behind them wanting to wear a sign that says “LOVE ME.” I’m sitting alone in the backseat, walking behind them because the sidewalk was made for two and constantly feeling a little paranoid with a voice in the back of my mind whispering, In the past my first instinct would’ve been to lie in bed, declare myself friendless and start building up a little bit of resentment towards my friends and the me who introduced them to each other, but recently I came to the realisation that it doesn’t have to be like that.
Some annoying part of me has always gravitated to couples of friends, though, and I’ve found myself being the unnecessary third leg of the group.
As cliché as it is, communication is the most important thing in every relationship.Ask yourself if they were describing the same relationship but with different people would you still be feeling anxious or using words like ‘disgust’?Doing this may help you identify what anxieties you have that are understandable but probably aren’t going to become an issue, and ones where you feel you do need to say or do something – although not necessarily with them.That’s not to criticise your reaction or suggest it’s unreasonable for you to feel this way.Just to encourage you to think about why this fills you with dread rather than it being a cause for celebration?