Years of experiences—past relationships, good and bad, early life experiences, successes and failures all leave their share of scratches and grime.
But we’re used to looking through those lenses without noticing these distortions.
You might be thinking that a relationship based on mutual hate can’t be too healthy, let me put your worries to rest.
We all get to decide how we use our energy, and since I don’t have control over others or the cosmos, it makes sense to me to put my energy towards what I can do from within. However, every few months, I’m like “oh yeah, I’m lonely.” So I reactivate my online dating profile for the millionth time.
I update my pictures, and I edit my descriptions because it can always be better.
Or if we’re aware of them we don’t necessarily know how to correct for them on our own.
Compounding the problem is the contemporary myth that you and you alone are the expert on you.