Dating someone with the same name as your ex

Now if the new woman LOOKED alot like her as well, and she saw a picture of your ex, you might have some 'splainin' to do! I don't think it's something that requires "Sit down, we need to talk" ... Just randomly toss it out there in a casual way, then leave it at that. But, just once, I dated a man whose ex-wife had the same name. Why do you need to plan a date to tell her she has the same name as your ex??? It you don't see it as a big deal, chances are she won't either. You know how sooner or later, SOME mention is made as to our ex's in conversation? My girlfriends usually know the names of at least some previous girlfriends just because it's easier to describe where I went on vacation, what I've done, etc., if I don't have to refer to them as Girl A, Girl B, and so on. I’m about to date a girl who, on paper, is A LOT like the last girl I dated.I have a great deal in common with this girl, just like I had a lot in common with the last girl, but I’m worried that I’m not liking this new girl for herself.As always, I speak from experience, both as a dater and as a dating coach.For years and years, I chased the holy grail of East Coast Jewish intellectuals. She was interested in doing everything I wanted to do, just so we could be around each other. I just discovered that it’s more important for me to be with a woman who makes me feel good than to be with a woman who fits that mental checklist we all have…. Generally speaking, I prefer women with liberal politics.When trying to meet someone new, it is imperative that you let go of your preconceived notions about who the perfect partner is.

So the more salient question that I’m going to answer for you isn’t whether there’s anything wrong with dating a girl who is a lot like your last girlfriend. Case closed.) What IS interesting, however, is whether these repeated patterns of girls are GOOD for you.

I should mention that the two of you share the same name'. I don't think its a big deal, mention it casually and lightly if/when the timing seems would it bother you? she probably doesn't even care, so if you'd rather not mention it, then don't bother.there's no value in making a big deal out of god man i'd hate to think what'll happen when you have a real haha, that's right! I have run into the same thing but recently ran into a new one. It's simple: Either never, ever mention it, and make sure your friends and family never, ever mention it, or just refer to your ex as "Evil Hilda" if she happens to come up in conversation. But if you mention it too early, she'll think you're trying to find a clone of your ex. She'll probably find out eventually, when she meets your friends or family.

My late husband had a very common name, and at first it was awkward getting to know guys who had the same name. I would hate to have to avoid getting to know men who also had that name, as it would eliminate a LARGE portion of the male population. Not only do I share the same first name as my gf's ex husband but my middle name is the same as his last name. When she does, if you haven't mentioned it, she'll wonder if there's some reason you're keeping it a secret. If someone is going to upset over that..have mercy cut the chats now.

i don't have issues with dating girls with the same name as another.

that should no where near be why you would not date that girl or another because of her name.

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