In the first of Sophie Gillard’s series of blogs she writes about the realities of single parenthood and getting back into the ‘dating scene’. Here he tells the story of how Gingerbread's forums helped him find love again.Whether you’re a single Mum or Dad looking for a relationship with like-minded singles, or you’re childfree but open to the idea of dating a single parent, e Harmony is a great place to start. It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their OKCupid profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world! You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. Plus, if you’ve gone through divorce or another crisis that landed you as a single parent, you are no doubt concerned about giving your kids extra care and sense of security. But it is even trickier if one or both of the parents put the kids before their partner.You also want women to know you’re a devoted dad (it’s no secret chicks get hot for guys who are great with kids! It’s no surprise that so many blended families I know struggle with adjusting all parties to a home where everyone is suddenly expected to revolve around the new relationship. One dad I went out with nearly boasted when telling me about a four-month relationship that went sour because his girlfriend did not understand why he’d abruptly leave in the middle of dinner because his tween son would call, upset about some matter with his hockey coach.It can be hard to find time to date when you’re a busy single parent but we really believe that the Relationship Questionnaire is worth it – after all, it covers all of the core values that’ll help your new relationship go the distance.Family goals, communication style, kindness and adaptability are just a few of the 29 dimensions that we take into consideration, while our profile settings make sure that you’re only matched with people open to meeting people who have children – you can be sure that you’ll find people who, as a single Mum or single Dad, share the same priorities as you when it counts the most.
Thanks to our unique Relationship Questionnaire, e Harmony ensures that you’ll be matched with single Mums or Dads who share more than just your experience of being a parent; our matches are based on 29 dimensions of compatibility, so you’ll be one-step closer to finding someone you – and your kids – will really click with.
"The children will end up feeling the burden and the responsibility of making their parent happy," says John Gray, Ph.
D., author of and the founder of the Mars and Venus seminars and workshops.
And in these families, the parents put their relationship before the kids.
Another’s girlfriend eventually broke up with him after several years because he rarely made time to spend alone with her, instead expecting constant family time with his son.