Having no idea I was still silently mulling over what I just read the week before, I sat quietly.
This is how she develops self confidence and self esteem.
I’m more than aware of the void left from being raised without a father in the home and the inevitable baggage most of us carry. Yet those of us who didn’t have been typecast and deemed “unfit” as ideal marriage material. Is it naive to long for men to feel “I can show her what she hasn’t seen, be an example of what she deserves, and create an example that will not only transform her thinking but (strive to) solidify a new foundation for women – girls – to reference for the future.” Is this problematic when especially a married man who is aware of not only the problem and seemingly cognizant of the solution feels the ultimate resolution is not to step up to the plate but penalize, demonize and further generalize said woman for existing in the unavoidable state of her “unfortunate” reality?
Though many of us strive to productively unload various issues in our daily lives, we also desire to build futures and legacies with a partner that won’t knowingly “add” to past disappointments of primarily emotional neglect. Our existence, a sobering majority and societal trend, has been stamped with a disclaimer.
Like most little girls, my father was my first love.
I adored everything about him, even how he smelled (like pine trees and lemons).